Stop People Pleasing. It’s Not Love, It’s Self-Abandonment

People pleasing isn’t about failing to do things for people. It’s a manipulation tactic to avoid holding yourself accountable.

They know your love language is acts of service.

Look how much you do for any and everyone.

They know you enjoy helping.

But do they realize you can’t help it?

No. Probably not.

They’re too busy collecting the relaxation they get while you bust your ass at their every beck and call.

Well, I’m here today to tell you to stop.

Forgot you again.

And yes, I’m yelling at you, because no one else will.

You keep going and going, not realizing they want that.

They know how tired you are.

They know you like the back of their hands, and you play into it because you’re afraid of self-love and rebuilding yourself.

You notice how they get upset when you finally say no.

I know you do. You know you do.

Then you feel bad, because you always thought it was your job.

Who cares if they get mad?

Oh well. If they have to put the pizza in the oven themselves while you do your own laundry for once, they’ll survive. 

It’s not going to hurt them to do something for themselves.

They’re just so used to you jumping up and down for them that they can’t stand the word no.

My entire life was surrounded by helping other people get on their feet.

Watching their kids.

I didn’t know I could work. Or finish school.

No one ever asked or volunteered to help with my babies.

So, I sucked it up and became a fence post.

Standing at the back of the wall, holding everyone up.

Slowly chipping away at my soul.

So, I’m telling you...

With a huge, huge push of pressure...

Slow down for yourself.

Do more for you.

Buy the shirt. 

Take the walk.

Just don’t become the maid cleaning up everyone else’s problems like you don’t already have your own.

Don't fold to their aggression.